Dave has a computer industry background, but his passion is really Arrowhead Acres and boating, where he is
known as "Captain Dave."
Vicki is a new addition to the Arrowhead Acres staff and is already fully involved in all aspects of the day to
day operation. Dave and Vicki were married in the "Chapel in the Pines" in September of 2009.
In addition to operating Arrowhead Acres, Dave and Vicki also run a Maritime Funeral Service called "A Burial At Sea" and they volunteer 2-3 days a week serving the U.S. Coast Guard through the Auxiliary where they
met, Dave as a coxswain and vessel examiner, and Vicki as boat crew and vessel examiner.
Dave is a Past Division Captain/Commander for the USCG AUX in Massachusetts and Vicki is a Past Flotilla
Commander from Rhode Island.
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Ashes to the sea
Uxbridge-based maritime funeral service assists bereaved
By Donna Boynton TELEGRAM & GAZETTE STAFF
A lot of other services that offer burials at sea were kind of like wedding-chapel mills. The
Morins were a lot more personal. They can only take six people on the boat. It was really intimate.
and his wife, Vicki Morin, of Uxbridge, operate A Burial At Sea, a maritime funeral service that delivers ashes at sea. (T&G Staff/CHRISTINE PETERSON)
-- Mary Cassidy
UXBRIDGE — Joan E. Eyler, an Englishwoman living in Ohio, has known that she would like
her final resting place to be at sea.
"For me — as you can tell by talking to me — I am English. But I am neither one nor the
other," Ms. Eyler said. "So when I die, put me in the Atlantic, so I can drift to either shore."
Ms. Eyler shared her thoughts on her burial plans with her then 96-year-old mother, who liked the idea herself.
So when her mother died just two weeks shy of her 97th birthday last year, Ms. Eyler and
her two daughters — who reside in Belchertown and Southbridge — searched the Internet for a burial-at-sea ceremony and happened upon David Morin and his wife, Vicki.
The Morins — skilled mariners who volunteer to assist the U.S. Coast Guard with activities
such as harbor patrols and vessel safety checks — operate A Burial At Sea, a maritime funeral service that delivers ashes at sea.
Mr. Morin has 40 years experience sailing off the coast of New England and is a U.S. Coast
Guard-licensed captain and coxswain in the Coast Guard Auxiliary. Mrs. Morin is Coast Guard Auxiliary crew-qualified and is a past flotilla commander of a Rhode Island flotilla.
The Morins do an average of 25 ceremonies a year between May and October on their 48-foot yacht, Boss Lady.
Mr. Morin is used to celebrating with families as they mark life's milestones with his main business, Arrowhead Acres, a banquet facility and
Christmas Tree Farm. He did his first burial at sea six years ago for a Coast Guard captain from Florida who had family in the area, and has
done maritime funeral services for other former Coast Guard personnel. The business grew to members of the public looking for burial
alternatives. The Morins also offer maritime funeral services for pets, but haven't yet done such a ceremony.
Burials at sea are postponed if the weather is inclement, Mr. Morin said, and he advises families to book a three-day window in order to have
alternative days from which to choose.
The Morins — Mr. Morin serves as the captain and has dubbed Mrs. Morin "The Admiral" — meet families at the dock in Narragansett Bay,
board Boss Lady and run a safety briefing. They then sail around one of three Rhode Island lighthouses — Point Judith Light in Narragansett,
Beavertail Light in Jamestown and Castle Hill Light in Newport — that can serve as permanent markers for family and friends should they choose to return later.
According to the Environmental Protection Agency, cremated remains may be scattered at least three miles off shore. Mr. Morin does a brief
service before the scattering, records the latitude and longitude and provides families with a certificate at the end of the burial.
Prices for A Burial At Sea start at $295 for an unattended dissemination of ashes, and increases to $695 for a maximum of six people to
attend the service aboard the yacht.
Mr. Morin said his parents chose to have a burial at sea, a decision they arrived at after considering all their traveling, and saw it as an
economical and practical alternative.
"Cost was one of the major factors," Mr. Morin said. "In addition to the cost, they had gone away on many cruises and had visited far
-reaching places. It just seemed appropriate. My mother owned several plots in New Hampshire, but she just felt she didn't want to be a bother and this was more efficient."
Mr. Morin said many choose a burial at sea because they spent a lot of time in their childhood at the beach, or the ocean played a significant
role in their lives.
Mary Cassidy's ex-husband, Christopher Soo, spent most of his free time at the beach, enjoyed windsurfing, and explicitly did not want to be
buried when he died.
"He had always wanted to go that way — just throw me in the water type of thing," said Ms. Cassidy, who lives in Connecticut. "We knew
this was exactly what we were going to do."
Though divorced, Ms. Cassidy and Mr. Soo and his sisters remained close. When Mr. Soo died last year at the age of 50 after a long illness,
they were researching burials at sea and decided on the Morins.
"A lot of other services that offer burials at sea were kind of like wedding-chapel mills," said Ms. Cassidy. "The Morins were a lot more
personal. They can only take six people on the boat. It was really intimate."
Ms. Cassidy chose to have Mr. Soo's ashes scattered in view of the Newport lighthouse, a place they had visited often.
"Being what it was, it was not a fun thing," said Ms. Cassidy. "But it was a great experience, and exactly what he would have wanted."
People have shipped ashes to have Mr. Morin scatter, and others have come from as far away as California. A Chinese family brought their
aunt's ashes back from the Philippines, and the family joined the Morins on the boat for the ceremony
"We see a lot of tears, but we also see a lot of people gain a sense of final closure knowing that the individual is finally at peace," Mr. Morin
Lifebeat – Providence Journal
07/22/2007 01:00 AM EDT
from Ashes to Ashes . . .
By Faye B. Zuckerman Journal Staff Writer
David Twiddy Associated Press
Loved ones who hire the services of Burial at Sea, of Uxbridge, Mass., get this certificate that gives
the latitude and longitude where ashes were dropped and a picture of the lighthouse on a nearby shore.
A former Rhode Island Coast Guard captain wanted to honor his father's dying wish to have his ashes
scattered in Narragansett Bay. He soon became frustrated after having little success in finding a company that specialized in such memorials.
The captain knew the rules. To scatter a loved one's ashes you must be three miles out in the bay,
and, of course, when it comes to the actual process one must make sure the boat is positioned properly. Otherwise, due to the wind, you may end up covered in the remains.
He complained to his friend, a licensed captain named David Morin of Uxbridge, Mass., about the lack of such formal sendoffs, and his desire
to have some kind of a small gathering and a certificate to remember the occasion.
"We had heard of people who just dropped ashes off bridges or the Block Island Ferry or showed up at the docks and hired a fishing boat,"
said Morin. "All of that is not recommended nor is it allowed. Something like that needs to be done right."
Motivated by his friend's dilemma, some three years ago Morin created a maritime funeral company called A Burial at Sea. For $595, Morin will
take six guests in his boat one-hour offshore to hold a ceremony to scatter ashes and put a loved one to rest. He charges $195 if friends and
family are unable to attend. He'll scatter the ashes on his own, and then send the family a burial certificate. Morin's business is among a
variety of companies across the country that are helping families deal with their loved ones' remains, either fulfilling their relative's wishes or
finding a final resting place more exotic than a family urn. The demand is a response to a growing number of cremations — 32 percent of U.S.
deaths led to cremation in 2005, compared with 21 percent in 1996, according to the National Funeral Directors Association.
Morin says his families can choose the location of the scattering. He'll perform services near the Point Judith, Beavertail or Castle Hill
lighthouses so, according to Morin's Web site, www.aburialatsea.com, "Loved ones can visit the area year round." So far, he has performed 36 scatterings, and he offers the same service for remains of pets.
On the West Coast, Bill Metzger said he's seen a 50 percent increase in customers over the past year for his business, Final Flights, which
uses his Piper Cherokee to scatter ashes above southern California sites, such as La Jolla, Big Bear or the Catalina Islands. He said he does
six to 10 scatterings a month at a cost of $300 to $500, depending on distance and fuel prices.
"When I get a call and I explain what we do, people are stunned; they didn't know something like this existed," Metzger said. "It just seemed
an uplifting — no pun intended — happy way of doing things, as opposed to a somber scattering at sea or placing in a columbarium [crypt]."
Mark Smith, president of the Chicago-based Cremation Association of North America, said the majority of cremated remains still go home with
loved ones for burial or safekeeping. But his association did a study last year that found that 21.7 percent of remains are destined to be scattered, up from 17.8 percent in 1997.
Smith said much of that growth is coming as funeral home directors increasingly offer scattering services in their funeral packages or at least
broach the subject of alternative disposition of the ashes, something traditional-minded families may have never considered.
He added that some relatives choose scattering because they worry about possibly losing the remains or subsequent generations letting the
ashes lay forgotten in a closet or attic.
"They realize they don't want to become custodians and caretakers for these remains for a long period of time," he said.
DWIGHT SMITH and his mother made several trips to Ireland over the years, reveling in the beauty of the Killarney lakes in the southwest
corner of the country.
When Smith's mother died last August, there was no question she would be cremated — a request she had made often — or that her remains
would be scattered near the lakes.
But Smith, of New London, Conn., said he didn't have the time or resources to make the trip now and wanted to fulfill his mother's wishes
"What she doesn't want to be is in Long Island Sound," he said.
Checking with a mortician friend, he hooked up with the International Scattering Society in the Kansas City suburb of Lee's Summit, a sort of
travel agency for the cremated dead that offered to handle for a fee all the paperwork and logistics required in taking his mother's remains
overseas. Sometime this month, one of the society's members will scatter the ashes in Killarney, providing Smith with video or photos of the event.
"I feel that it will be done in a better way than I could have done," he said. "My mother would be happy that someone who likes doing this is
KELLY MURTAUGH, owner of the nearly three-year-old International Scattering Society, says the company will honor any request to scatter
ashes anywhere in the world. For customers who want information on scattering on their own, for $75 her staff will research local ordinances and obtain a permit.
Her company charges $495 to perform a scattering at a family's request. In Europe, the Society charges $695; Japan costs $895.
National parks have been the most popular location to strew remains, she said. Recently, a few requests have arrived to scatter in France.
One of the more unusual requests came from someone who asked to have ashes put inside a slot machine in a Las Vegas casino, but she said her company has scattered in rainforests and at Stonehenge.
"I think baby boomers want options. They are a much more transient group," she said. "They typically don't have family nearby, and they
want to honor requests of family members."
People are no longer limited by geography when considering final resting places. Some don't like the idea that their ashes will simply sit on a
mantle, and they are making plans for their ashes before they die.
THE MOST POPULAR scattering option is water, reported a study by the Cremation Association. Land-based scattering has grown from 27
percent to 40 percent since 1997.
Coast Guard Capt. Gus Hald has offered sea services for more than 15 years through his Babylon, N.Y., firm, www.seaservices.com. A
spokeswoman for his company, Donna Valdner, estimated that he performs about 10 per month.
He frequently scatters in waters around Long Island ($195), and the remains arrive via the mail. He sends the family a burial certificate with
the date, and latitude and longitude of the scattering. The company has a selection of biodegradable urns too. (Onboard memorial services with six passengers start at $675.)
Hald has connections to other ports in the United States and Hawaii, Valdner said, where he will send ashes upon request.
Wes Heinmiller, owner of Newport Beach, Calif.-based Atlantis Society, said his company does about 400 scattering ceremonies a year off the
coasts of California and Washington State. His service costs $1,000 to $1,200 per ceremony, including the cost of chartering his 67-foot yacht.
JOANIE WEST of Crystal River, Fla., has taken a different angle on air scattering with her 10-year-old company, The Eternal Ascent Society.
With the help of the family or by herself, she launches the cremated remains inside a large helium-filled balloon. Once it reaches a height of five miles, it pops, distributing the ashes to the winds.
"It's something that's beautiful when they see it," said West, who is setting up franchises in Las Vegas, Seattle and New Jersey and charges
between $995 and $1,500 per service, depending on how far the coordinator has to travel. "I tell them that when it scatters, it's going all over the universe."
For the person envisioning a more localized scattering, there are numerous services willing to take the ashes to any spot on the globe.
Jonathan Rose in Mountain View, Calif., charges $225 to take a person's ashes to land he owns south of Yosemite National Park in the Sierra
Mountains where he'll scatter the remains or bury them in one spot, which he said appeals to Catholics.
"Mostly they want to be in the mountains; the idea of being scattered from a mile up doesn't appeal to them," said Rose, whose High Sierra
Gardens does about 12 scatterings a year but acknowledges he could do a lot more if he worked on his marketing. "It really is building up a trust issue with the funeral homes; that's really difficult."
THE ISSUE IS REALLY about people and their feelings. Murtaugh said she founded her International Scattering Society after working in
hospice care and seeing the struggles people had in making end-of-life decisions. She now has 22 members available, mostly in the U.S., who
will receive the ashes through certified mail and scatter them wherever the customer wants.
"I think it's a way of cherishing the memory of that person," she said. "Maybe they feel that have a connection with that particular area."
Besides scattering, the society can also help customers navigate the myriad regulations covering the disposal of cremated remains, which
varies widely from country to country and even city to city.
Disposal typically requires a permit from the local health department and, in the case of overseas scatterings, tangling with customs officials.
"If it gives them some closure, that's all we need," she said.
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